Self-worth.Posted on: 16 января, 2019, by : admin
«Life brings us together with those who confirm our inferiority.»
I heard this opinion today on the lunch break, and I wondered what is behind these words.
On the one hand, I can’t help but agree that we do face our limitations and fears in a paradoxical way. And of course, people around us do not make these experiences any easier, it seems, on the contrary, they make them worse.
And as luck would have it, those who are afraid of loneliness, there are those who do not really care about the well-being of another. Those who want to feel important — those who devalue in every possible way. Those who want recognition — those who do not put them in anything.
And this lesson does not end there! The teachers are insistent on continuing their education, hammering the higher mathematics of our incompetence into our clueless heads! But this is pointless, we can’t read the language of higher categories, we can’t see the axioms and theorems of love!
And I want to spit on everything and exclaim «What the hell, I have to understand all this and endure it! I don’t need this pain! If so, I refuse to stand it at all!»
And we turn away from life. Because it disappointed us. She’s stupid and bad. And it is better not to communicate with anyone at all than to endure all this humiliating rudeness and depreciation. Yes, for some reason we are treated like this.
Do we allow it? We create something in our relationships or our manifestations that starts to step over us a little. Then again and again, until we are finally forced out of our Self.And we still think that they are cruel.
And how do I do it? Can’t I resist this takeover? Maybe I can’t, but if so, how can I stand the pressure of another ? Especially when it’s a close relationship and we’re particularly vulnerable and vulnerable? After all, this is where we get this sense of being used.
The answers lie somewhere in the past, where important people for you first became unreliable , and then there was the first signal of fear. Looking through this prism, you can understand how difficult it is for a person who falls into the trauma of uselessness to withstand and resist manipulation, and not be imbued with the belief that » here, again, the same thing! I guess it’s because I’m like this, and that’s all it is with me!»The ability to notice your role in this process, the reasons that lead to the same ending each time — is enough to start managing your life.